Pregnancy and Infant Loss
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. The 15th is the universal day of remembrance for pregnancy loss and infant death. Nearly 1 million pregnancies in the US end in loss yearly. These losses include miscarriage, stillbirth, and death of an infant.
One in four pregnancies end in loss.
I am 1 in 4.
Feeling the Pain
If you have never experienced the loss of a child, no matter whether you got to meet and hold your child or not, it is very difficult to understand all of the feelings that a family can go through.
As a mother of 4 rainbow babies, I know all too well the feelings of grief, loss, fear, anger, guilt, and so much more.
Before I even had my first child I experienced the loss of 5 through miscarriage. Even though all of my losses occurred before 8 weeks, they were still very painful. It wasn’t until after 5 miscarriages, the birth of my son, and two more miscarriages that I was finally able to find out the reason for all my unbearable losses.
Finally Some Answers
Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome.
APS is an auto-immune disorder where the body produces antibodies against certain normal parts of the blood and cell membranes. Due to this, I had recurrent blood clots which continuously caused repeated miscarriages.
Loss of a Child
The loss of a child stays with the family forever. Others find it hard to completely understand how the loss can impact someone so much physically and emotionally.
Break the Silence
Pregnancy and infant loss holds such a stigma in society. For many decades, these losses were something that were just not talked about, which caused families to grieve in complete silence and alone.
Today more than ever, families are speaking up and speaking out about their losses. Support is becoming more available and easier to find following a loss. No longer is it necessary to hide your loss and feel the pain by yourself.
Together we can shatter the silence, begin the healing, and inspire hope.
Because we are not alone. You are not alone. I am not alone.
I am 1 in 4.